Fantasies aren’t just a male domain—women have them too, and their desires are as rich as they are diverse. A compilation of various studies reveals the ten most commonly reported fantasies among women. But how often do these fantasies become reality? And if not, what holds them back? Let’s take a closer look.
10. Sleeping with a Celebrity
Iconic figures like Brad Pitt, Ryan Gosling, or even Tom Holland frequently populate female imaginations. The idea of intimacy with a star remains a classic fantasy, often fueled by the media and cinema.
9. Hooking Up with a Man in a “Sexy” Profession
Firefighters, police officers, nurses, and even carpenters or window washers—certain jobs are eroticized depending on individual preferences. These fantasies often play on symbols of strength, closeness, or uniforms.
8. Swinging or Group Play
Among group fantasies, the idea of watching or participating in encounters with other partners—within a consensual and organized setting—is fairly common. Voyeurism is often tied to this scenario.
7. Role Play and Costumes
Imagining a scene, stepping into character, or recreating a first meeting at a bar—these fantasies, often involving costumes, bring a playful and theatrical dynamic that heightens arousal.
6. A Threesome
Whether it’s the more traditionally male-centered fantasy (two women and a man) or its reverse (two men and a woman), threesomes are regularly featured among top desires—even if they’re less frequently acted upon.
5. Being Dominant or Submissive
The power dynamic in sex—whether through domination or submission—both fascinates and excites. Role play, restraints, spanking, and BDSM scenarios are common variations.
4. An Experience with Another Woman
Around 16% of women surveyed admit to having felt desire for another woman. This doesn’t necessarily indicate a homosexual or bisexual orientation, but often a curiosity or specific erotic interest.
3. Sleeping with a Stranger
One of the most commonly shared fantasies. It’s important to note that this is not about non-consensual situations, but about a scenario where the woman chooses an unknown partner. The appeal lies in anonymity, spontaneity, and the thrill of the unfamiliar.
2. Passionate, Romantic Love
Beyond raw sexuality, many women fantasize about tender, sensual moments filled with prolonged eye contact and intimate gestures. Romance and emotional connection remain powerful turn-ons.
1. Sex in a Public Place
Whether it’s on a deserted beach, a hotel hallway, or an unusual location, this fantasy consistently tops the list. The thrill of being caught, the sense of forbidden pleasure, makes it particularly alluring.
Fantasies: Desire vs. Taboo
According to French studies, 9 out of 10 women have fantasies. However, only 3 out of 4 say they would be willing to act on them. What’s holding them back? The main barriers are fear of judgment, the risk of upsetting relationship balance, or a simple lack of open intimate communication.
Casual relationships can sometimes offer more freedom for fantasy exploration, whereas long-term partnerships may suffer from unspoken desires. Yet sharing fantasies—even bold ones—often deepens emotional intimacy.
Fantasies also evolve with age, relationship status, and life circumstances. A 30-year-old single woman is unlikely to have the same desires as a 45-year-old mother.